[spoilers] Harry and Ruth

[Tea Lady]

(14-12-2009 04:08 PM)lwhite53 Wrote:  

(14-12-2009 03:39 PM)Tea Lady Wrote:  I obviously have not read the diary yet but would it be fair to say that Harry has NEVER had a loving, honest relationship? The sort he would have with Ruth. He certainly wasnt honest with his wife and could not have really loved her if he had a long standing affair. Juliet was just lust I assume. Ruth is something he has never experienced and maybe the reason why he is looking so scared. He doesnt know what to do. He doesnt know how to be himself with her. The real Harry. Just some thoughts.

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I think his relationship with his wife was honest (aside from not telling her what he did until after they were married), at least at that point in his life. He's changed tremendously over his career, as his attraction to Ruth demonstrates. I don't think he would have given R a second look in his youth -- she wouldn't have been flash enough, sexy enough, or thrilling enough for the younger Harry.

When I said honest I think I meant that Harry surely could not have talked about his work with his wife? He would have come home after a really really bad day and had to pretend that nothing happened. With Ruth he could now share most of the bad things that happen. His job is one of the most important things to Harry and to have his partner able to share in that, would make the relationship honest. I Hope that makes sense.